Our Choice
As children we would seek out unsuspecting daisies. We pluck them by their stems from the ground and the ritual would begin. Thinking of the boy or girl of our chosen affection we would begin to pick each petal, stating aloud “He loves me”, the next pluck “He loves me not”. We would hold our breath until the last petal remaining inevitably divulges if the person loves us or not. If we didn’t get the answer we wanted some of us would just pick another flower while others (more resigned to our current destiny) would sigh, only to resume the ritual at another time.
How similar this childhood game is to life and our reactions or interactions between others and ourselves. Verbal exchanges can leave us feeling an increase or a decrease in self-esteem and self-love. Random events occur and we place upon them the category of “I love me” or “I love me not,” either consciously or unconsciously. At times an interaction with another can leave us feeling exhilarated, confident, or at peace. Other times an interaction with another can leave us feeling angry, disconnected, or drained. What is the difference between those two interactions? Are they as random as the petals being taken from the daisy or do we have control over the outcome?
The tools we teach will help in finding how we can control those situations and make every moment an “I love me” moment. In most every situation we can take control to change the situation to an “I love me” situation. These tools are about the power of choosing you. People are taught to communicate haphazardly though life. We learn reading, writing and arithmetic in school. I don’t remember when the last time I used the quadratic equation, but I do know that I communicate every day. It is an essential tool that is taken for granted. Many of us are unaware of how to harness this power to the fullest. Our choice in each situation remains elusive with most of us asking, “We had a choice?” Awakening our awareness equals power over our destiny.
Welcome to owning your own power.
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